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at 7 Jul 2007: 23:47

Oh, fchan, I look at my life and I realize that I am in at least three different closets that I don't feel like coming out of right now, but I'm not really ashamed of who I am, you know?

What do you suggest I do?

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nlat at 8 Jul 2007: 02:13

If you don't feel like coming out right now, chances are you shouldn't.  When the proper time rolls around, you'll know.  While you may not be ashamed of who you are, that in no way speaks for other people either.  Give some thought to how they might react if you were to come out to them.

Being furry shouldn't be a terribly big deal, unless you get someone whose perception of such is that they're / we're all freaks who like to have sex with animals :p

Assuming being furry is one of the things though, you can drop hints in ways besides telling them directly.  One thing you could do is check /c/ for some furry wallpapers, and use those on your computer.

Just keep in mind that there's other ways to say things besides using words~

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at 8 Jul 2007: 03:01

>>1

Consider whether or not you even need to worry about the closet in the first place.

I mean, if you're gay, well, that's a big deal, that's something to give considerable thought about "coming out" about.

If one of those closets is "being a furry," well, don't worry about it, because that's not really something anybody needs to know or will even care about, so don't get worked up over how and when to break the news.

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at 8 Jul 2007: 07:01

Makes me wonder what the third closet is.. o_O

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Drakis Kier at 8 Jul 2007: 09:27

*smirks*   i say an alt-hard fetish...    like cubs, vore, toilet play or something....

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ORIGIONAL POSTER at 8 Jul 2007: 19:21

>>2
That's some good advice, so thanks! ^^

>>3
Also good advice, thanks to you too.

>>4
I could tell you what the closets are, but I wouldn't be in them anymore, would I?  Well, maybe since I'm annonymous ...

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at 9 Jul 2007: 16:10

JUST FREAKIN' TELL US!

Also, try to gently bring the topic to fetishes to see what the people you want to tell 'it' to think. (If you fail and they find out and get angry, it's not my fault ;P)

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at 9 Jul 2007: 18:33

I wouldn't tell my parents anything i'm thinking even though they might have thought worse things at some point in their life simply because it's awkward. Though I think hiding parts of yourself from the world is just another way of being ashamed or being afraid of the hatred that comes afterwards. If you aren't willing to fight and go through sacrifice for your beliefs then are they really that important to you or should you just drop them now?

A lot of people have bad experiences when they are honest...but it's all about timing. For instance...you don't just walk up and say 'i'm gay' then expect everything to go well. You have to figure out a way to break it to people easy as to not shock them or make them feel as if they've been lied to for years. Sit them down and have a conversation about honesty and how you are feeling bad because you've held back some things THEN say them.

But my opinion is...if it's not worth sacrificing for...it's not worth having in the first place. It's an expendable feeling/interest/etc.

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ORIGIONAL POSTER at 9 Jul 2007: 18:56

Okay, you guys have convinced me to tell you :P

The first one you have already guessed, and well, it's pretty obvious.  I'm a furry! ^-^   I don't think telling people this will be that big of a deal.  I figure that I could just show my friends a picture of a furry version of a character and say something like "She's cuter like that."

Closet number two: I'm bi, meaning, of course, that I like both the guys and the girls!  Ah, my friends and sisters won't mind a bit if I tell them, but what about my mom ... *images a nuclear explosion* ...hmmm maybe I shouldn't tell her yet.

And on to number three!  I'm sang.  This basically means that I crave blood and find it tasty ^^

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at 9 Jul 2007: 19:00

>>9
If you still live in your parents house i'd hold back on the bi thing or ask your mom how she feels about bi people because your friend just said she liked you or whatever.

The whole craving blood thing...eh...don't know wtf to say about that. You probably shouldn't tell anyone because...do you REALLY crave blood? Try drinking it...it will make you sick as hell, then you probably won't crave it anymore.

The furry thing...shouldn't be a huge deal to most people, just say you like the aesthetics or whatever.

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Nick at 9 Jul 2007: 19:45

>>10 Agreed about the blood thing.  Consuming blood (even from a prolific nosebleed) will cause nausea.

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at 9 Jul 2007: 20:36

>>11

Did you know you can drink a pint of blood before you start to feel ill?

Fight Club rocks!

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at 9 Jul 2007: 20:41

>>12
Actually it's a pint before you start vomiting it back up.  The ill feeling usually comes on much faster (not that I'd know...).

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ORIGIONAL POSTER at 9 Jul 2007: 23:02

>>11
We sangs don't drink our own blood, only from our donors.

And it tastes quite good, really, warm, salty, a bit sweet... |3
Awesome stuff.

Anyways, I'd only get sick if I drank too much at a time...
One or two ounces is unually best.

Cheers to all fellow sangs! (it's short for Sanguinarian)

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at 10 Jul 2007: 01:21

Sanguinarian, is that like a pastafarian?

Anyway, don't ever "come out of the closet", if by that you mean sitting your parents down and accosting them with your fetishes.

Keep it secret until you don't care, but don't ever rub their noses in it. They probably don't want to know.

Think about it. What would you say to your child who said they had some weird fetish? I'd be in an awkward position - do I tell them I'd rather they keep it to theirselves and risk sounding unloving or misunderstanding?

I don't know your parents, but for me, it would be TMI.

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ORIGIONAL POSTER at 10 Jul 2007: 10:22

>>15
Good point.  My mom will never find out, hopefully :P

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at 10 Jul 2007: 10:28

Blood, sweet?

More like metallic, slightly acerbic and salty.

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at 10 Jul 2007: 20:32

>>17
Probably depends on blood type.
A would be metalic
B would be Sweet
AB a bit bitter
O like freshly cooked tuna.

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ORIGIONAL POSTER at 10 Jul 2007: 21:41

It sucks that your friend is a homophobe, but I figure you could get around that problem.  Just don't thell him/her.  If your other friends will keep a secret, then it'll all work out...  But if they hate you if they find out, then you might just have to make someone else your best friend, which wouldn't be that bad, considdering the other one doesn't accept you ...

Sorry you're in this situation, but I hope for the best for you.

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FoxStar at 10 Jul 2007: 22:33

I think you need to worry less about your various hobbies that might not be socialy acceptable and focus more on just taking care of yourself and getting your life in order so it runs the way you want it to. You can live your life and no one outside of a small few, if any needs to know what fetishes/hobbies your into, nor in truth do they really need to.

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at 10 Jul 2007: 22:43

>>18
B is a fairly rare blood type, isn't it?

And: Freshly cooked tuna? Descriptive O.o

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at 10 Jul 2007: 23:14

>>19
I hated gays too but when my friend told me the friendship became more important than my hate towards gay people. I still hate a lot of gay people to this day but like I said...if the friendship is important enough and you don't become overbearing with the gayness your friend probably wouldn't hold it against you. Just don't go saying "IM GAY AND PROUD" or "IM HERE AND QUEER" or any other obnoxious phrases and most people who hate gays can tolerate you just fine and even like you as a friend.

Most people who are homophobic like myself just hate the overbearing minority population of gays who are way too loud and obnoxious for their own good.

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at 11 Jul 2007: 05:50

>>19  Underage B&?

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at 11 Jul 2007: 21:24

>>24
lol

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Shady at 1 Aug 2007: 01:52

18 how exactly would you know this?

also, im pretty sure everyone has tasted there own blood once
i.e. busted lip etc.

and for one mine ( from what i remember ) has no appealing taste whatsoever

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at 1 Aug 2007: 05:54

>>26
This would be how I have tasted my own blood, and also why the taste of blood holds no appeal for me. If I'm tasting it, it means I've done something stupid. Again.

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Bizzle at 1 Aug 2007: 09:04

>>26 I've always wanted to try that one thing Bruce Lee did where he tasted his own blood on the tips of his fingers before going nuts and beating the crap out of the guy who made him bleed.  Sadly, the opportunity never seems to present itself in real fights.

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MooImAChicken at 1 Aug 2007: 21:50

>>28
I bet Howard Dean tasted human blood before that Iowa speech.

PYAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH!!!

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at 2 Aug 2007: 11:43

>>26
or chronic nosebleeds >.>, im really familiar with how my blood tastes. though i cant say it tastes bad, in large amounts it drys out your throat very bad. not fun at all

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