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Well there are a few ways to look at it. I understand that you don't want people to know, and of course you have a right to your privacy, so it will be a pity if your friend who found out tells on you. Out of curiosity, how did your friend find out? You don't have to tell specifics, but did they find your name on a website or find furry art on your computer, or what? The method by which they found out can either expand or shrink your options.

Also, is this friend a true enough friend to be asked to keep a secret? I realize people use the word "friend" very loosely so I don't want to assume anything. If this person is a true friend, someone who really has your happiness and best interest in mind (in other words, if they love you as a friend) then you may want to consider just asking them to keep it secret.

If they aren't willing to keep it a secret for your benefit, I'm sorry to say they probably aren't a good friend to begin with. You'll probably do well to get away from them instead of spending your life around someone who would treat you badly. Being found out as a furry may SEEM like a one way ticket to hell and ridicule, but no dirty little secret revealed is half as bad as being surrounded by false friends who back-stab you.

So I guess my advice without knowing more would be to appeal to your friend's decency if that's possible, that is if you're found out for sure. Otherwise, if you were found out in some "maybe" way, and you don't want anyone to know your preferences, just do what you have a right to do and lie and deny. It's your privacy and you have every right to defend it.

Well, that's a bit different. :) Originally you were saying it would be a one way ticket to hell and ridicule, but if you think your friends would accept it and keep it a secret, that's sort of the opposite of hell and ridicule. I'd say ask your friend who found out to keep it a secret for the moment, and then meditate a bit on whether you want to tell others. Now that your one friend knows, maybe you can talk to him about it and explain your concerns, and get his input even. I'd say, think it over good and make sure you want to tell it first, but if it feels right, maybe it is the time to come out to some people close to you. Especially if it would make you feel better to do so! Whatever happens though, best of luck.

Why do you need to come out about a hobby? It's a freaking hobby, not a lifestyle for christsakes. Just say "Yeah, i'm into it, what about it?"

Again, it's not a lifestyle. There's no reason to come out about something you do in your personal life.

Furry is a lifestyle to some, just like those who live openly gay lives.  And just like gays who are open about it, they'll end up getting flak from people who don't understand it and don't want to understand it.  I'm fairly open about both my gay lifestyle and being a furry.  I've never received more crap for being a fur than I did for being gay, and I rarely get even a little flak for being gay.  Most people don't know enough about furries to have an opinion.

EX-furs are the biggest problem.  They spout so much bullshit it isn't even funny.  Crap like its a hobby, or its just freaky.  They try to take all the romance out of any aspect of being a furry, and make it look like some sort of delusional state.  Then they troll Furry boards and act like they're still one of the group.

Friends like that, we don't need.

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You are pathetic.  Please eat delicious cake.

Hmm, lots to think about, thanks for the positive input guys.

Oh, and 10, thanks, I think I will go eat some cake.

LULZ on all fronts

>>3  All of my friends (and me personally) would see it as an obligation to tease and poke fun at a really good friend if they found out about some secret fetish.  If he isn't talking, though, don't feel the need to spread it around.  That is, unless you want to.

>>7  Exactamundo.  "Furry" is a ridiculously broad and poorly defined term encompassing many fetishes and many, many degrees of insanity.  You don't have to lump yourself in with all of us nutjobs, because you aren't really like all of the rest of us.  Just like what you like, and don't try to define yourself by it.

>>8 "Romance"?  You're kidding, right?  It has all the romance of going to a peep show alone.  Of course, that doesn't mean that it isn't fun.

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"Ex-furs?"

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ITT: We gather the easily amused from far and beyond.

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Keep it to yourself and that specific friend. Don't go out and tell anybody, but if it "gets out", don't go out of your way to hide it; that will backfire as well at this point.

However seriously you might take "furry", as long as you _look_ like you don't take it seriously to others, you'll be fine. Like a lot of things. Indifference will work for you. So just relax.